DEAL WITH WINNING/SUCCESS 2.13

Goal: To improve skills for expressing feelings

Objective(s): The student will accept success appropriately.

Process Steps:

1. Acknowledge that you have won or performed well.
2. Think about how and why you succeeded (time, effort skill, etc.).
3. Make a positive comment to yourself.
4. Accept any compliment given.
5. Show good sportsmanship to others.

Discuss

Definition: Success is the attainment of a desired outcome.

Rationale: When you deal with winning and success appropriately you allow yourself to feel good about your performance or efforts without putting others down.

Where/When/Comments:
• Students should have learned skill of "accepting compliments" prior to learning this skill.
• Ask students about times they have experienced success, and the reactions of others.
• Differentiate between bragging and acknowledging you did well and the effect of each on others.
• Discuss how empathy can be shown to other students.
• Stress importance of making positive comments to self.
• Play a game with class with winners and losers and discuss feeling of each.
• Stress that success is not necessarily winning (i.e. trying hardest, meeting a goal, staying with a difficult task, etc.).

Model/Role-play with Feedback
Role Play Situations:
• You completed all of your assignments.
• You cleaned your room.
• You helped a friend do his/her chores.
• You made the school football team.
• Your team won a game at recess.
• You passed all your classes.
• Your parents agreed to raise your allowance. • You ask someone on a date and he/she accepts.
• You apply for a job and get it.
• You win a prize at a raffle.
• You win a card game.

Application with Feedback
• At the close of each school day, request each student to name a success from the day.
• Keep a journal recording the positive successes and the effort involved in obtaining them.
• List individual qualities (smart, try hard, etc.). Students make Acrostic poems using their name and display in room. Use poems as a source for Step #3. Make a positive comment to self.
• Students watch pre-recorded tapes of endings of sports events and discuss reaction. • Name a "Star of the Week". Display student's picture, bibliographical information, likes/dislikes, and successes on bulletin board.
• Keep goal chart for students who have met goals.
• Give awards/certificates for successes and monitor students performance. Thank you grams can be used, possibly as raffle tickets.
• Consult with PE teacher. Ask him to reinforce and complete evaluative checklists.


Social Skills Curriculum Guide, 1992
Special School District of St. Louis County