Goal: To improve social-relationship skills
Objective(s): The student will accept positive comments about oneself or about one's accomplishments.
1. Decide if someone has given you a compliment.
2. Say thank you.
3. Say something else if you want to. (McGinnis and Goldstein, 1980 p. 131)
Definition: To accept a compliment means to acknowledge their admiring remark by saying, "Thank you."
Rationale: Discuss reasons why you accept compliments. It is polite and appropriate.
Discuss feelings experienced when given compliment (proud, embarrassed, disbelieving, etc.). Reinforce listening to the person giving compliments.
Ensure students have prerequisite skill of saying thank you. Discuss how others feel if the compliment they give is not accepted appropriately. (McGinnis and Goldstein, 1980, p. 131)
Elicit from students examples of times they were given a compliment.
Discuss the need to give yourself compliments when you have achieved a goal.
Model/Role Play with Feedback
Use skillbooks, workbooks or comic books. (No.3, Unit "Accepting Compliment").
Students make awards/certificates to recognize those who give them compliments.
Blow up a balloon, write name of the person who gave you a compliment and why you appreciate it. Post or give to the person. (Special School District, 1989 p. 145)
Pick one student and have other students write a compliment about that person on an index card. Have student practice accepting compliments.
Each student writes name on sheet of paper and gives self compliment. Pass paper to each student who adds an additional positive comment. Return papers and student reads aloud. (Deckert and et al, 1989 p. 125)
Students read ten compliments and their responses and decide if the compliments were accepted appropriately or not.
Role play situations:
Your teacher compliments you on good work.
Your parent compliments you finishing your chores.
Your friend compliments you on how you look.
Your boss compliments you for always being on time.
Your parents compliment you for doing a good job washing the dishes.
You are complimented by someone on your haircut.
Your friend compliments your mom on being pretty.
You are complimented on making the basketball team.
You are complimented on your new toy.
Your neighbor compliments your dog while you are walking him.
Your teammates compliment your home run.
Your coach compliments your fielding attempts.
Your friend compliments your new shoes.
Your parents compliment you on how well you've cut the grass.
Your boss tells you that you did well after your first day on the job.
Your teacher compliments you on a kindness you have shown a classmate.
Application with Feedback
Teacher assigns model student to give surprise compliments to all other students throughout the day. Student reports back on other students' performance. (Special School District, 1980 p. 148)
One student is notified daily he will be evaluated by others. Each student is to give the assigned student one compliment and provide feedback to teacher (either oral or checklist).
Other teachers are asked to compliment students and provide feedback to teacher.
Send a note to parents describing the skill and asking them to evaluate their child using an informal observation or a suggested role play.
Social Skills Curriculum Guide, 1992
Special School District of St. Louis County