Skill: Negotiate Differences/Compromise
Goal: Improve conflict management skills
Objective(s): Student will demonstrate ability to negotiate to solve conflict with others.
1. Decide if you and the other person disagree.
2. Tell how you feel about the problem.
3. Ask the person how he/she feels about the problem.
4. Listen to the answer.
5. Suggest or ask for a compromise.(McGinnis & Goldstein, 1984, p. 153)
Another teacher enters the room saying he/she is going out for fast food. Teacher and confederate stage a disagreement over where to go (Taco Bell vs. McDonald's) and resolve by negotiation.
"When Ms. X was in here, did you see us disagree?"
"What did we disagree about?" (elicit student responses)
"Did we fight?" (elicit student responses)
"How did we solve the problem?" (elicit student responses) *Emphasize that talking about it together was the key.
"You saw us compromise. Can someone give me a definition
for compromise?" (Elicit student responses and write
definition on board. Use corrective feedback as necessary.)
"A compromise might happen when two people want to order a pizza but want different kinds. What could they do if one wants sausage and the other wants pepperoni?" (elicit student responses)
"What are some other times people can use this skill?" (elicit student responses)
State goal of lesson:
"Today I am going to tell you the process steps for this skill."
"Tomorrow, I will model the steps. You need to listen and remember the steps as we go over them."
Define the process steps:
Teacher writes process steps on chalkboard with picture cues or presents previously made poster.
"I want each of you to think of a time when you might use this skill and share with the class tomorrow."
Social Skills Curriculum Guide, 1992
Special School District of St. Louis County